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Hair Struggles-Real Talk

Hey Skirt Society family! Today we're talking about a real topic that we all go through! I did a brief Instagram story talking about my testimony with my hair and some personal struggles I faced a few days ago and I was overwhelmed by how many responses there were. I was even asked to start a hair series on my blog and I thought that was a wonderful idea! So today in collaboration with Skirt Society a business who supports Christian women I wanted to share my story here in a little bit more depth. So grab a cup of coffee and get cozy because it’s deep!

Hair comes in all colors, textures, and lengths. Some of us have vibrant red hair that is so curly we had to spend most of our lives learning to tame it or maybe you have thick black hair that breaks all of your ponytails. You could also have string straight hair that refuses to curl but is a beautiful shade of chocolate brown. Or maybe you’re like me and your hair is super thin at the ends but everyone loves your dirty blonde color! You could also be a modern-day Rapunzel with beautiful gold locks which sweep the floor! We all have different hair and often times we want what we don’t have. It’s funny if you think about it because while we want what someone else has there is usually someone somewhere who wants what we have. We get this mindset and mentality where we are not thankful for what we have so we start being envious of what others have. (This can apply to more than just hair-am I right?!) But what we have to understand is that no matter what kind of hair you got dealt it is a blessing from God and it has more value than you may realize. Our hair is more than just a pretty thing on our head it’s powerful! The bible says in Corinthians 11:15 “But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.” WOW! If we just take a moment to think about that scripture we will see the world Glory sticking out and will begin to understand that God says that our hair is our glory! Glory as glorious and amazing! As in if you’re the girl with the super curly red hair you are glorious because you were given your hair from God! He wanted you to have beautiful red hair because when he created you he knew that’s how you needed to be! God always knows best-just live a little and you’ll learn.

Long hair is also mentioned in the scripture and we must also break this down to understand what exactly that means. For Susan down the block her hair might only be at her mid back, it’s long for her because she’s never cut it. Susan just doesn’t have naturally quick to grow hair and maybe Susan put’s way to much heat on her hair for it to be able to grow strong! Sally, on the other hand, has hair to the floor and she’s never cut it. Sally probably wears her hair naturally in buns and almost never put heat on it. She also might use products on her hair which are actually good for her hair and sulfate free. Sally and Susan should never compare hair lengths because each one is different. Susan should treat her hair as Sally does with intention as it is her glory but Sally should never make Susan feel bad about her hair. Both girls have long hair because they have left their hair uncut and natural. This is just to say every single person is different and every single person has a different kind of hair as I mentioned above. Since our hair has such a big title as our glory it can be a sensitive topic for many women so we must be careful how we address our sisters about their hair. I speak from experience that comparing my hair length to my friend's hair length and feeling insecure isn’t what made my hair grow longer. What changed my hair is when I started to read in the scripture for myself why a woman should have long hair, when I started taking hair vitamins, when I started using natural hair care, when I stopped frying off my glory every day and when I intentionally every day asked God to make my hair grow so that I could stand out amongst my peers. It was then on that my hair started to grow and I saw significant changes over a period of time! We can’t rush God! In the time I prayed for my hair I slowly started to spend more time in prayer and developed a routine prayer life. So while it was a great heartbreak to have lost my hair after having long hair my whole life I saw a purpose! I grew closer with God and now have another way to relate to women who also struggle with real-life problems.

If you’re interested you can read more about my specific hair journey at If not remember to love your hair whatever kind you have because it is your glory. Take care of your hair intentionally and if you’re unhappy with where it’s at pray and ask God to make it grow. Praying for it to grow not because you think long hair is pretty but because you understand it is a woman’s glory and her covering.

By Alexa Sue-Anne Dudley a modest fashion blogger at A Missouri gal and undergraduate student at Sewanee: The University of The South. Alexa is a Psychology major on the Pre-Med track and is Chinese minor. She loves people and can’t wait to work as a doctor in the mission field one day soon! Follow her on instagram @1998miss​.

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